Shame and guilt

"I love men. I want my brothers to live lives that are just and kind, where there is no disconnect between what is done in private and what is done in public. I don’t want them to hate their bodies or their libidos, but I do want them to hate what our culture has told them about their masculinity. I want them to hate the “myth of male weakness” that limits their humanity. I want them to hate those aspects of the culture that have infiltrated their own consciousness, and I want them to work as hard as they can to match their deepest convictions with their own sexualities. And yes, when they fuck up I want them to feel guilt. But I never, ever want them to feel shame."

Hugo Schwyzer writes on Robert Jensen, porn, and masculinity. Good stuff. Read the whole thing.